Hopefully this post isn’t too controversial. It’s a topic that swarms my Facebook newsfeed and the TV and, well let’s be honest, it’s everywhere. It’s the idea of success. Especially success for a female. The question of what does a successful woman look like?
Society today says that success looks like an independent woman. A woman that does not rely on or lean on a man. A woman that wears a business suit or owns her own company. A woman that goes to school for years and years to get the title “Dr.” in front of her name. A woman that makes all the money. I look at that and say shoot, that’s not me at all!
Don’t get me wrong at all. Doing any of those things is not wrong at all. That’s not what I’m getting at here. I have learned that success is what God has called you to and you taking the leap to follow it. If God is calling you to not be married then great, you rock the single life. If God is asking you to own your own company and wear a business suit everyday then please make that your passion and run after it. If God is calling you to learn for years and years to be a doctor and help people in that way then that is wonderful! But don’t do any of these things because society says they make you “successful” or “sexy” or whatever it is saying these days about women. Do it because that is the exact path God is calling you down, and you want to give him the glory through it. Do it for him and only him, and don’t look down on anyone else who is called to a different form of “success”.
I have really been struggling with this. I don’t have a career. I don’t wear a fancy business suit or make a ton of money. I work part-time jobs, nothing glamorous. God has called me to serve my husband. To make dinner for us and to clean our house. To do the grocery shopping and the laundry. To push through this infertility journey to one day stay at home with our precious kiddos. A lot of that grates against societal views. It has made it hard sometimes for me to stand firm in it and trust that God knows me very best and knows what success looks like for me in my life.
This is one reason God gave me my sweet husband. Cole shows me truth when I doubt. Just last week I asked him if it made him look at me differently because I wasn’t a successful woman. He immediately told me that I was being swayed by society. He said that our success should be measured spiritually. Are we doing what God has called us to? Are we chasing after him and his plan for ours lives?
These past three or four years I have done just that, I have sacrificed and followed and listened but not with lack of doubt and fear. Thank goodness God has grace for me each time I doubt and each time I question. He has brought me so much joy in this journey, and when I think about it I love what he has called me to do. So, please stand firm in what God has called you to, and don’t look down on others for being called to a different form of “success.” Let him being glorified be the number one priority. The rest will fall into place.
“Now may the God of peace, who through the blood of the eternal covenant brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep, equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”