Blooming Infertile Soil - Our Story

Kari Rae Presets

Take a seat on the couch, and grab a blanket. I want you to get cozy and hear a bit about my little family.

I am married to a hardworking, loving man who stole my heart almost immediately. I had finally gotten to a place in life where I had found Jesus and myself, and along he came. God definitely had the perfect timing in this one. The best thing is: we got set up! Cole, my husband, likes to tell everyone we met on Facebook. How classy. I’m thankful we both dove into the opportunity and started on the most wonderful journey. He shows me the love of Jesus and encourages me through all of lives ups and downs.  He is pretty funny too. We are quite the team.

It happened quickly. We dated just 7 months before we got engaged and had just a 6-month engagement. What can I say, when you know you know, right? It wasn’t even a year after that we built our first house and got our first baby: a fur baby. Phoebe is the feistiest little corgi out there. We couldn’t imagine life without her energy and love, but we could imagine her having a friend. Because really…puppies have A LOT of energy! So one year after that we rescued the biggest sweetheart, Saylar. Mutts can be the best dogs, and she so is. They are best friends and totally compliment each other. We love our girls! Yes, I know what you’re thinking, they are beyond spoiled.

Cole has always worked so hard for our family, and that gave me the flexibility to follow what God was calling me to do. My life was always focused on career and success, I was going to go to medical school. As Cole and I neared marriage, we prayed through what life was going to look like for us, and we prayed through what a family was going to look like for us. We very clearly heard God tell me that I would stay at home with our future kids. Things had been falling through with preparations for future schooling, and I realized that I was doing it for everyone but myself and more importantly, God. I gave it up. I finished my undergrad, and I was done. Working four part time jobs, and for once in my life, I didn’t have a clear plan. I don’t function well under those circumstances. I don’t function well without plans. However, the thought of babies kept me sane. We began the journey of trying right before my last semester of college. Tis the beginning of the season of life where God grew us and shaped us and truly God us ready to become parents.

Lack of periods and ovulation, inconsistent cycles, my body was not doing what I wanted it to. I spent time trying to detox my body naturally and treat this disfunctioning system with herbals. Little strides, but not enough. Months of fertility drugs with no fun side effects. The realization of a two-sided coin, both sides of the story having broken pieces. It became a journey that Cole and I are walked so closely together. As we prayed, IVF settled in as the right choice for us.  We began that journey, and through 15 days of high meds with my body taking a lot of coaxing to respond, we got 10 eggs and then from that came our 2 little embryos. God spoke to me and said, “My child, I can do it with just one.”  That’s the thing, IVF was never separate from our trust in Jesus.  God was there every step of the way, working this all out how he intended.  We transferred that one frozen embryo and left the other to chill.  That one little embryo became our Zeke. All I can say is, we had to constantly keep our eyes on the Lord. He was doing work in us, way more than what would have happened without this struggle. We have grown together in our marriage and grown closer to our Lord. He is and was and will continue to write a beautiful story.

I am now so glad that I get to share this journey with you.

“When my spirit grows faint within me, it is you who watch over my way.”

Psalm 142:3a